Today is my twenty-third anniversary. Twenty-three years. I often say I married way over my head. My wife is wise, strong, and beautiful inside and out. Sure I’m biased, but you would agree if you met her. Reminising about our adventure together a few thoughts about love come to mind. The love I’m talking about isn’t the fleeting infatuation that sparks love. It is a wisened love forged over time and sustained in monotony. It’s the kind of love I receive from my wife everyday; a persistent and genuine love.
A persistent and genuine love stays no matter what. Even in the midst of the tremendous strains that can befall a marriage, love stays in the promise of a strengthened resolve to work it out together.
A persistent and genuine love isn’t afraid to expose vulnerabilities. To expose oneself, warts and all, is to invite critique and criticism. Love embraces the foibles of the other and redeems them together.
A persistent and genuine love tells it like it is. Things are never hunky dory in a relationship all the time. Hurting the other person happens. Sometimes we don’t even know we are doing it. Love shares the hurt and brings a balm that heals.
A persistent and genuine love is a mystery. To try and figure out why love exists and turn it into a system of tips and principles is to diminish its power. There is more to it than meets the eye or is confined in the mind.
A persistent and genuine love is frustrating. Relationships are messy. Sometimes the action of the other can create a reality that defies expectations and leave you scratching your head. Love is open to change and works out the disparate expectations.
A persistent and genuine love is a gift and a joy. It isn’t easy but it’s the only force on earth stronger than a diamond and softer than a pillow. It holds out hope and is forever evolving to meet the changing dynamics of relationship and committed to the long term. What a joy!
Excuse me now. I have a dinner and movie to share with the love of my life.
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